Valentine’s day 2013

 

This year on Valentine’s Day, I am what people would call “single”.  I don’t like that term very much. To me single means there is something missing, as if I am incomplete and separate.  However the truth is, I feel very much complete, whole, connected and everywhere I look, I see love. I have either been very blessed/lucky to love and be loved my entire life OR I always look for the love, and I find it. I prefer to accept the latter. We always find what we look for, no?

There are many that claim that Valentine’s Day has become commercialised.  Maybe that’s true…

BUT isn’t that a judgement against people who have found a way to make money? Who is holding a gun to your head asking you to buy your partner a gift? Is it the adverts you see on TV or listen to on radio? While the media has some effect on our lives, I think we should take responsibility for our own lives. There was a time in my life, where I did not have a single cent to buy a gift for my partner. I did not bitch and moan about how Valentine’s Day just a money making thing, just because I had no money at that time. If you say it is, you really just don’t have money. Be honest about it. If you love someone, you want to shower them with gifts. Everyone loves getting gifts and that’s the truth. However during my challenging days, I was open and honest with my partner about where I was financially. I communicated. Communication is the key to a lasting relationship. When times are tough, focus on the things that money CAN’T buy. Spending time with your partner, telling them how much you love and appreciate them. Hold them. Say I LOVE YOU. The most romantic date I have ever been on, involved a KFC R2 cream, which we SHARED in my car, in the middle of the city.

 

There are also those that claim that there shouldn’t be a need for Mother’s day, or Father’s Day, or even Valentine’s Day, because, we should be showing love to these people in our lives everyday. While this is true, the people that say the above, live in a fantasy world. We live busy, crazy, mad lives! I definitely do not show LOVE and give my TIME to my parents or partners, family and friends everyday. I am so glad that these days exist, where time is given to us, it is created for us, to express our love and appreciation to our loved ones.

 

Then there are people that say that we shouldn’t celebrate Valentine’s Day at all, because Valentine was a man who slept with his partner before been married to her. A sin in the Big 5 religions of the world. He has SEX before marriage. I speak for myself when I say, that when I love someone, I feel the need to express myself physically with someone. I would like to make love to them. (Not that I sleep with everyone I date, and making love does not always mean penetration!) So I ask you “Why we be hating?” It’s called MAKING LOVE, not having sex. Have we lost the plot?

 

Valentine’s Day is a day to love, to be loved, to express love, to share love, to BE LOVE.

Love yourself, for all you are, accept yourself for all that you are and all that you are not. Remember that when loves flows through you, it will flow to you! As I mentioned in my first book, “When there is an implosion of love in your heart, there will be an explosion of love in your life.

 

Happy Valentine’s Day to you. May your heart always be open to see that love is all around you, right here, right now.

I love you,

Hitesh