Falling in love and getting dumped are the exact same thing!

 

I know you are already thinking that this guy has totally lost it now, but it is true! When you fall in love or when you get dumped, your experience is the same! The only difference is in the body chemistry. When you fall in love, you have an increase in dopamine secretion (you feel good, you feel like everything is perfect, you laugh for no reason, nothing phases you, even if someone knocks your bumper on the road, you are fine with it – YOU ARE HIGH), and in the other, dopamine is secreted lesser and lesser until it stops being produced altogether and you experience the common withdrawal symptoms (pain, feeling alone, depressed, suicidal, everything and everyone is against you, irritable, not hungry, no sexual drive)

Now let’s look closer at what we experience when we fall in love:

 

1. The person occupies time and space your mind
2. You are not in the present moment, you are always thinking of them
3. You cannot focus, and get work done
4. You want to give up everything in your life
5. You always talking about them to friends
6. You don’t have much of an appetite
7. When the phone beeps or rings, you hope it is them
8. Every face you see in pubic reminds you of them
9. That love song, brings memories of them
10. You wake up thinking of them, you go to bed thinking of them
11. They are more important than our own lives

 

Now let’s look closer at what we experience when we are dumped:

 

1. The person occupies time and space your mind
2. You are not in the present moment, you are always thinking of them
3. You cannot focus, and get work done
4. You want to give up everything in your life
5. You always talking about them to friends
6. You don’t have much of an appetite
7. When the phone beeps or rings, you hope it is them
8. Every face you see in pubic reminds you of them
9. That love song, brings memories of them
10. You wake up thinking of them, you go to bed thinking of them
11. They are more important than our own lives

 

Tell me the above is not true? Falling in love and getting dumped are the same thing! They both rob our own magnificence and significance, we forget how great we are and we stop being present.

 

So am I saying don’t fall in love? Of course I am not. Falling in love and getting dumped are part of the process in life.  What I am saying to you is – DO NOT get so trapped into the illusion of this, that you lose yourself and who you are. Stay balance, focuses, poised and in control. Sooner or later the dopamine will stop, and you will realise you are not in love with the person anymore. So don’t be “drugged” into thinking you are in love. Love the person for WHO they are, and you will stay in love forever.

 

I wish you a happy ever after.

 

Love,

H