To Forgive is to Forget

Good morning,

Have you ever heard someone say, “I have forgiven but I will never forget!” Perhaps that someone was you.
That statement is completely wrong because to forgive is to forget!
Forgetting is your yardstick to confirm if you have forgiven.

Listen carefully, you are about to learn so much about YOU. Things happen in our lifes. People do or say things to us which we label either positive or negative. Totally false, as all events are neutral, but let’s leave it there for now. When an event is labeled pos or neg, it has a CHARGE, like that of a battery. As you may know, your brain is an electro magnetic PC. This charge is stored in your brain as a memory, ready to be accessed 24 hours a day. You know this because when you worry you have access to this memory instantly. So let’s say someone did something to really hurt you. All you found were drawbacks without looking for the benefits to this event and you labeled it negative. This memory is now stored. All day you think about what this person did! Its runs your mind. Anything that runs your mind, ruins your life. If you take the time with someone like me to go through the event and find all the benefits, ie. You find all the positives, you bring the event into balance.

It’s like having an acid solution , which can burn your skin, and adding alkaline solute to it to make it neutral. When acid and alkaline are balanced in a solution you have a harmless substance: water.
When negatives (guilt, fear, shame) and positives (happiness, ecstacy, excitement ) are balanced in the brain (shift in perception) the memory is neutral and you have a harmless substance: Love.

When you neither see an event as pos or neg it no longer runs your mind! In other words your forget! The facts of what happen remain (as everything is stored in consciousness on some level), but not the memory. The memory dissolves! Like if you asked me 3 years ago, when did my ex and I broke up, I would say something like 23 days, 7 hours ago. Today I don’t even remember when we started dating! I have forgiven her and therefore forgot. That is true forgiveness.

It goes deeper: A course in Miracles says, “You can only forgive if you have something to blame.”
In the end you realise there’s nothing and no one to forgive. To get to a point where all you want to say to the person is thank you and I love you. Where all you want to express and feel in your heart is gratitude and love.
This is a process. Its a realisation. Its a shift. It’s not going to happen in a few seconds. This is my work and what I do with people. My message and work is all about getting to love.

Ask yourself, have you forgotten? Or have you not really forgiven? When you go through the process you will be amazed as to how many doors open up to you and how your reality changes.

Have a beautiful day.
I love you. I thank you.

Love,
H