Don’t think Positive

Ever since “The Secret” movie / book came out all I ever hear is people telling me “Be positive!” I also hear people say “I am always positive” or “I am positive about my life”.

Let me share something with you – I am not an advocate of positive thinking and people that tell me how positive they are makes me say to myself “Oh God, not another one!” The only time I would tell someone to think more positively – is when they are thinking too negatively. You think positive to bring yourself back to balance. You can NEVER think positive all the time, or think negative all the time without you getting frustrated with yourself and the world. You think both positive and negative thoughts and together they keep you grounded or balanced. Too much of either and you are in trouble.

People are of the perception that positive thinking yields a positive life. The sun does not shine all day and night – if it did we would all be dead. Too much of any good thing is bad for you. It’s the way of nature. It is the law of the Universe. You can think positive all you want – but if you jump of a building you will DIE. You can think positive all you want, but if you play in traffic you will get knocked!

Positive thinking has to be backed up by positive actions – that is altogether aligned with the laws of the universe (such as gravity). These are real laws that govern our life. There is a fine line between being positive and being optimistic. Being positive means you believe everything will work out without any setbacks. Being optimistic means you see you goal in your mind and you work towards it, knowing that along the way you will meet obstacles and challenges that you will overcome. So, here you SEE the POSITIVE & you KNOW that there are NEGATIVE too and this is when success is drawn to you, instead of you chasing it or getting frustrated.

You must also GET REAL about what you want to happen. There are some people that say “Sometimes you have face reality and know that you cannot do…..” and you can fill in that blank. There are 2 takes on this. ONE: If you are blind – you cannot become a F1 drive. If you don’t have the skills and knowledge you cannot perform open heart surgery. If you do not have a quality product you cannot sell it for $1 million.  TWO: If someone says to you that you cannot travel the world speaking and inspiring people selling thousands of books AND YOU CAN SPEAK, READ, WRITE AND ARE NOT AFRAID OF FLYING – then this is not facing reality.  If someone tells you that you cannot free a nation from apartheid AND YOU HAVE A VISION AND PASSION, LOVE FOR YOUR COUNTRY, AND BREATH IN YOU, then this is not facing reality. So GET REAL about what you want and do what you need to do to make what you want happen. Positive thinking must be following by positive actions if you want the desired results!

You are allowed to feel and think negative. If you are dumped, or have been fired from work or have been mugged, then you are going to feel NEGATIVE. I am telling you it is OKAY to feel negative. Allow these feelings to be felt. The sooner you allow yourself to feel it, the sooner the feeling of being negative will pass and you will experience love and peace again.  Positive + Negative = Love – and love is a balanced state and is the state you wish you be in.  Trying being happy all the time and you will eventually crack and become just as negative because you have not allowed yourself to feel down.

 

So – take this away:

1. Be more positive, if you are too negative to become balanced again

2. Know the difference between being positive and being optimistic

3. Know the laws of the Universe

4. Get real – but don’t “face reality”

5. Don’t think positive – think LOVE

6. Bank up positive thoughts with positive actions

 

Be great always,

Love – Hitesh