All in good time

There is an ancient Chinese proverb that say the best time to plant a tree was 10 years ago, and the second best time is now.

Last week I was thinking that we have been conditioned to do things in life at certain cycles/period or times in life and feel pressured to live by these conditions.

We have to have gone to varsity and completed it by the age if 24. We have to get a job by  the age of 25. We have to get married by the age of 27. We have to have kids before 30. We have to own a home by the time we 40. We have to retire by the age of 65. We have to die by the age of 90.

Somehow, if we missed those landmark ages, then we are considered failures, and we carry immense guilt and shame about it.

It is like you have a sell by date. You have an expiration date and become spoiled.

As I had mentioned to you before, life is a journey not a race, and there is no prize for the one the completes this journey first. Different things happen at different times to different people. Some will marry at 18, some will marry at 40. Some will retire at 65, some will retire when they die. Some will finish studying at 21, some will begin studying at 50. There are no late bloomers in life. People bloom when they are ready. Human beings have gestation period of 9 months. Elephants have more than 2 years!

Things happen when you are ready. It is a perfect moment when you are ready. One of my favourite quotes is, “There is nothing more beautiful than an idea whose time has come.” Yes time is an illusion, but the rhythm and perfection at which things happen is both an art and a science. There is a time for laughter and a time for crying, If you try to roast vegetables faster than the time it needs by turning up the heat, the result is burnt food.

Do not rush anything. We all going to one destination anyway, taking nothing with us. Do not fee guilty of what you have not done or achieved yet. Just like the sun, who rises at the break if dawn, goes unnoticed, so too will you go unnoticed when it is your time to shine. Right now you are being prepared for the greatest love, the job you will love, the health you will celebrate, the story you will share. I have always said to be people that even though my life has been filled with so much pain, some day in the future, I will make a profit out of it. Everyone wants a good story. I might as well give them what they want! It turns out…I already am.

All that is yours will be yours, in the time that is perfect for you to receive it.

This is an unchangeable law of the Universe.

Love,

H