People reveal themselves through you

Good morning,

When I tell people I have learned so much from my x gfs, (no they were not lecturers), they think I’m just plain silly. In my talks I mention them a lot, and some even say I am not over them. But the truth is these girls have been my greatest source of information about myself. The closet relationships in your life reflect to you who are at/what you feel at  any given moment.

The old adage is true, people do not change, we do. That’s really how my x gfs went from sweetheart to sourpuss. From the most wonderful person I know to the most horrible I could imagine. People have all the qualities you can think of. There are over 4000 human traits. You have them all. Depending on what is going on in your consciousness will determine which trait is experienced by you. So in essence, people are all traits, they are all personas, but you only get to experience a few of them at a time. People simply reveal these traits to you.

How many times have you heard someone say, “I cannot believe he changed overnight!” Or “He was really nice, I don’t know what happened” or “He is not the guy I married.” I use HE, but it is also SHE. 
All your partner is doing is reflecting back to you that which you feel about yourself. Nothing is ever happening to you, but rather happening THROUGH you. Your own reality is a reflection of your innermost dominant feelings and thoughts. Thus your experience is simply revealed to you. No one is a “bad” person.  They have their “bitch” mode on simply because YOU have activated it in them, by your own vibration. That is not to say you did something wrong to them, but it is your own awareness in consciousness that is creating your relationships.

How to shift this? How to experience something else? Well even babies know how mirrors work. You dance and the mirror dances. So its simple to understand, that love reflects love (unconditional), fear reflects fear, rejection reflects rejection, pain reflects pain, peace reflects peace. What you see in them, is nothing but all of who you are. If you don’t like it, change how you feel about your own safe.

If you want happy, fulfilling, satisfying relationships then you need the following:

1. Self Love
2. Self Value
3. Self Honor
4. Self Respect
5. Self Confidence
6. Self Worth
7. Self Acceptance
8. Self Belief
9. Self Reliance
10. Self Awareness

Its all you. Its all self. Give yourself the relationship you seek, and you shall find it outside you. As a mum told her son to a question she was asked “Mum how do I find the perfect girl?”

“Its easy my son, be the perfect man”

I love you.

Love,
H