The “Lies” about “Love”

*note the love I speak of here is relationship love and NOT divine love.

Let’s face it. We humans are compulsive liars. We lie all the time. We especially lie when it comes to “love.” From my experience with relationships and counseling hundreds of couples, I know that we make many promises to our partner that we never keep. We promise to never cheat, hurt or leave them, yet we do it anyway. We also say to them that this love is so special and so amazing. Yet, you said the same thing to your previous partner. You feel like nothing is as great and blessed as this love you guys share – but this is the same feeling you had before.

So why do we lie?

The truth is we don’t even know we are lying. So if we don’t know we are lying, how do we ever do anything to change it? We can’t.  I think we can only become aware we are doing it and acknowledge that yes, we are liars and we that we do lie. We should also realize that we are both the lover and the heartbreaker and that we hurt people as much as we love people. We do both and that’s truth. I know what it feels like to be dumped. I also know what it feels like to dump someone. Do you have the courage to admit the above? You were designed to be balanced and every area of your life will be this way.

I am not saying that the love you share with your new partner is a lie. Each time you get to share and experience love the Universe celebrates with you. But do not act as if the love you shared with your previous partner meant nothing.  People that fall in love hard – usually end up getting slammed hard. They experience an extreme HIGH and then an extreme LOW.  I promise you that your new amazing partner will hurt you and disappoint you. You will only stay with them depending on much you can tolerate their crap and how much value they add to your life. You will stay with them until someone “better” comes along. In reality it’s not someone better. It is just someone who behaves the way you like in relation to how much you have changed. People don’t change – you do.

Every princess is a bitch and every prince is a bastard. People have 2 sides. At any given moment you get to experience one side. Get real about the love you have and stay grounded. Cos what goes up must come down – but if you always on the ground, you will never gave to fall. You will never have to fall OUT of love, because you didn’t fall IN love in the first place. You can do this, if you realize that you are love and that at any moment you have love in your life. When you live in this energy, and you do meet a partner, you do not have to lie to yourself and the world how new and wonderful this “new” love is. You can just continue celebrating as you were before.

 

I wish you love always,

Hitesh