There’s nothing wrong with you

Here’s your biggest problem…
You think that’s there’s something wrong with you. You think you need improvement or mending. There’s not a single thing wrong with you.

You have spent your entire life conforming to what the world defines as right or good. If you or your own life didn’t match the said template then “Oh, there’s something wrong with me!”
I say this is your biggest problem because such thinking can only lead to lack of self value and self appreciation. The lack of such, leads to the crumbling of your life.

What have you, ‘supposed’ to have had or done with your life by now?
I supposed to have completed that degree.
I supposed to have had gotten 9 A’s.
I supposed to have been married.
I supposed to have had a million dollars in my bank account.
I supposed to be positive everyday.
I supposed to have completed this project.
I supposed to have been driving this car, living in that house.

Says who?

If we know who, then by what authority do they have to say this to you? What makes
them the expert in your life or life for that matter?

If none of your “supposes” have manifested then you label yourself as a failure or perhaps just having badluck or even call yourself stupid or useless.

You think life is about accumulating accolades and accomplishments. You think life is about achieving and conquering and travelling long distances. This is the BS story you have been made to believe is true.

There’s nowhere to go, you have already arrived. You search but have not realised you have already found.

There is nothing wrong with you. Never has, never will be. Refuse to live according to a standard mould. No two books in a library tell the same story. So why do you expect your life story to be like another’s? Each story is different and has its own genre, plot, characters and twists.
I’m going to be real with you. You may never get the girl or boy, live in the mansion or drive a Ferrari, or be the best at everything you do.

I can tell you a few really real things that are guaranteed though.
You can be happy.
You can be at peace.
You can laugh.
You can love
You can smile.

You can enjoy each moment…
regardless of what you achieve, accumulate or conquer, regardless of attaining anything.

Since you enjoy playing the “suppose” game. Let me give you a suggested list of supposes to consider.

What if your life is just supposed to be as it is?
What if you are supposed to be single right now?
What if you are supposed to experience this challenge right now?
What if you are supposed to endure the hardship?
What if you are supposed to only be financial free at 45?

If the above was declared normal and ‘okay’ then you would not be feeling miserable and sad about your life.

So now I ask, Why not declare it then?
You are the only person that has authority and power over your life. You can set the rules and live by them, or follow the rules and die by them.

The choice is yours to make.
There’s nothing wrong with you or your life.

I love you so much,
Hitesher Gef